Tempted to Compare

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As the holiday shopping season approaches, so does the season of comparison. Parents try to ensure that none of their children feel that they somehow got “shorted” when they compare the gifts they received with what their bothers or sisters obtained. House decorating takes on competitive proportions as adornments are meticulously organized for both inside and outside our abodes. Parties and festivities are often just as much about who has been invited and what people wear as it is about celebrating the occasion. In a culture that often thrives on comparison, it is no wonder that the tendency to do so kicks into high gear during the hustle and bustle of the holiday season.

Of course, the temptation towards comparison isn’t just limited to the days between Thanksgiving and Christmas. We are often quick to look at what we have and evaluate it in light of what someone else acquires or achieves. This inclination even occurs in our walk with God. We see the ministry that someone else has been called to and we desire it for ourselves. We see the gifts that another has been given and we wonder why we haven’t been given the same. We see how God is using our friend or family member in what we deem is enviable ways for His Kingdom and instead of rejoicing at how He is at work through them, we internally complain about why we haven’t been given the same opportunities and chances.

We aren’t alone in this temptation. Peter contended with the same struggle. After denying Jesus three times and returning to his old life of fishing, Jesus graciously appears to Peter and offers him restoration. Christ reminds Peter that he has been given a job (Mt. 16:18) – and that instead of abandoning the call on his life because of the mistake he made, Peter needs to get back to what Christ has called him to do (John 21:15-19). After this merciful restoration, one would think that Peter would plow forward, eagerly setting about to do the task set before him. However, before he does so, he turns around to look at someone else. He sees John and wonders what Jesus has planned for him (John 21:20-22).  Instead of proceeding with what God had so clearly asked of him, Peter starts trying to determine what God may ask of another. He was first distracted from the work that God had called him to do by his sin, then he becomes distracted because he is busy making comparisons.

What Peter needed to do was get to work. He needed to move forward with the task that God had called him to do. Christ makes this clear in His response, lovingly reminding Peter that his obedience should not be dependent on someone else’s call. Instead, God had given him a purpose – he was to be the rock upon which Christ would build his church and it was on that he should focus, not on how or for what purpose God would use someone else.

In a similar way, we need to make sure that we aren’t spending our time making comparisons between what God has given to us and what He has given to another. Whether in regards to gifts, talents, ministry opportunities or anything else, it matters little what God has granted to someone else – what matters is what He has asked of us. We need to remain faithful to what He has set before us, being diligent in obedience and faithful to His call. He will orchestrate the work that He has given all His saints into accomplishing His purposes. Our job is to do the tasks we’ve been given (Eph. 2:10); we can leave the details and the management of the greater plan to Him.

 

Author’s Note – I realized after I had published this post that I had written a similar one in the past. For those that noticed the redundancy – my apologies. Sometimes it’s hard to keep everything straight, and sometimes God impresses the same lesson on your heart in a new way. 

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Always Thanksgiving

One of the things that I am thankful for is that I live in a country where a day is set aside for the expressed purpose of giving thanks. Although the holiday may have lost some of its original luster with the gift-buying season encroaching quickly upon it, it is still a pretty remarkable thing that we take time to intentionally and purposefully count our blessings. Some have extended the day of thanksgiving into a month-long celebration, posting on Facebook or Twitter something that they are thankful every day in the month of November. It is a good discipline, this practice of giving thanks. It reminds us that gratitude is appropriate even during tough circumstances. We have been given much, and to whom much has been given, much is expected (Luke 12:48).

However, we would be unwise to think that it is only in the eleventh month of the year that we need to apply this discipline. After all, if we have reasons to give thanks every day in the month of November, we have reasons to give thanks every day of the rest of the year. There are times it may feel like our list of reasons is shrinking dramatically, and perhaps we will have to give thanks for the happier times we once had rather than the circumstances we must currently endure. Regardless, those who follow Christ always have a reason to give thanks – not only has He saved them, but He has promised us a future hope that we can eagerly anticipate and expect. And if we struggle to give thanks even with that assurance, perhaps we need to reconsider upon what we are basing our relationship with Christ. As Thomas a Kempis reminds us:

 Those who love Him for His own sake and not for any comfort of their own, bless Him in all trial and anguish of heart as well as in the bliss of consolation. Even if He should never give them consolation, yet they would continue to praise Him and wish always to give Him thanks. What power there is in pure love for Jesus—love that is free from all self-interest and self-love!

In other words, if we are struggling to thank God, perhaps it is because we are not really looking to Him at all, but instead are concentrated on ourselves. If we turn our eyes from our own self-interests, and look instead to the greatness of our King, our praise and adoration, along with our thanksgiving, would quickly flow. We would recognize that our temporal circumstances should not determine our level of gratitude; after all, He is “the same yesterday, today and forever” (Heb. 13:8). Because of that, there is always reason to give thanks.

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