Gifts Not My Own

Being married to a sports fan, I get to watch a lot of sports, or at the very least, sports recap shows. In the course of these, you realize that there are a lot of ways that athletes celebrate an accomplishment. Most of them (although not all) try to bring some further attention to the athlete themselves. If broadcasting their accomplishment all across the globe wasn’t enough, they want to further demonstrate that the touchdown/basket/homerun, etc. was a result of their prowess and ability.

These self-aggrandizing celebrations have long bothered me. It’s probably why I like the story of the coach who told his football team that if they were going to raise their helmet in celebration after they caught a touchdown pass, they better do it when they fumbled the ball as well. Assuming credit for the successes only is misleading; if you alone are responsible for the touchdown, than you alone are also responsible when you lose the ball. If you aren’t going to give credit when things go well, you certainly aren’t going to give blame when they don’t.

Of course, we know that regardless of the coach’s rules, none of these players can rightly accept credit for their gifts and talents because they are endowed by their Creator. He may have given the the ability to nurture and cultivate them, but ultimately He is responsible for not only their existence but their use. The same is true for the gifts and the abilities that God has given us. Whether it’s putting together a business plan, preaching a compelling sermon, or creating a musical masterpiece, these abilities are the result of God’s graciousness in our lives. We may use them – but we only use them because He has allowed us to do so.

This is what Daniel reminds us of in Daniel 2:28-30. He is about to use the skills that God has given him to interpret the king’s dreams, but Daniel starts with acknowledging that it is God who knows all things and therefore God who enables him to accurately interpret. This was an opportunity for him to gain favor – for him to cultivate esteem in the eyes of the king. However, he rightly recognized that the abilities he had been given were not “his” but came from his Father. So should we.

It’s an appropriate reminder when we are given and take possession of physical gifts to a greater degree than almost any other time of the year. Just like our talents and abilities are gifts given by God to be used for His glory, so are our possessions. May we see all we have, whether talents or material things, as tools to make Christ known. And whether we are blessed with an abundance or just a little drum and the ability to play, may we give it all for the sake of our King.

How can you honor the King with your gifts this Christmas season?

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Ambassador of Marriage

One of the cool things about weddings is that you get to see what’s important to a couple. Most weddings these days take months to plan, and as a result they are carefully orchestrated and coordinated events. The order of the service, the words that are spoken and the music that is played reflect something of that couple’s priorities. Weddings are a little insight into the history and the future of the relationship.

Of course, the real test of the marriage come in the days, months and years  following the wedding. That’s when you truly see what’s important to the loving couple. You get to witness how faithful they are to the vows that they made. You get to see whether their priorities have shifted and changed. And you get to see whether they value marriage in the same degree that they did when they stood before their family and friends on their special day. Because most couples will tell you on that day that marriage is a great thing and that they are looking forward to it. Years down the line, their tune often changes, and this is unfortunate. Because marriage is a great thing. Scripture is filled with reminders of the value that God places on marriage and the gift that a spouse should be. Our relationships should reflect this same appreciation for marriage that God does.

What does that mean? It means that our marriages should be ambassadors for marriage. We should speak not only well of our spouse, but of the gift that God gave us in being brought together in holy matrimony with that person. We should reflect on the blessing that it is to have a relationship that’s primary purpose is to display the love between Christ and His church. Our marriage should make marriage look good – not in a superficial, contrived way – but in a way that recognizes that God has blessed us in giving us someone to share our days with – to laugh with, to cry with, and even to struggle with. Marriage is a gift and our words and actions should reflect this.

It’s commonplace for people to ask newlyweds, “how are you enjoying married life?” and I suppose this is an understandable question. Perhaps though, we would do better to ask that of people who have been married 20, 30, 40 years and learn from the continued blessing that their marriage is. May our marriages be a similar blessing to those that ask us.

 

How can couples practically show the good gift that marriage is?

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