A Greater Love

I just got a puppy. He’s adorable and a rascal, makes me laugh and sometimes makes me want to scream. While anyone who has had a puppy knows what this like, the purpose of this little treatise isn’t to advocate the trials or the triumphs of owning a dog. Instead, its to talk about the sudden change in priorities that can occur within just a moment of time. All of the sudden my crazy schedule isn’t so any more.

Those who know me know that I tended to go from one activity to the next. This is surprising since I’m an introvert, but for one reason or another I tend to be involved in a lot of things. I rarely realize how crazy my schedule is until I start describing it to someone else and they look at me with big eyes. Somehow, it just seemed normal to me.

But all the sudden my normal has changed. No longer do I feel compelled to be involved in everything because there’s an 11-week old little dog who is, at this time, quite dependent on me. And it’s important to me that my rambuncious puppy grows up into a well-behaved dog. My priorities have shifted.

And the thing is, I tend not to mind it. The work, the change in schedule, is worth it because there’s a greater vision in mind. I don’t want to have to be teaching my 5-year old dog how to behave, I’d much rather do it now. However, the work and the inconvenience that I somehow manage with my dog, I sometimes balk at when it comes to the service that God has me do. I want it to be on my own schedule and I want it to work according to my plans, and sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes its hard and trying, and frankly very discouraging. But just like my dismay at my puppy’s behavior doesn’t make me abandon the work, neither should disappointment in people’s response to the things of God. After all, the work isn’t for them anyway.

We are willing to make all sorts of things a priority in our lives and we sacrifice much to ensure that our priorities are achieved. If God’s purpose in our lives was the most prominent priority in our lives, maybe we’d be a little more willing to deal with inconveniences and a little less concerned about its impact on us.

“It’s amazing how non-Christians put our love and commitment to shame because their love for idols exceed our love for God” – Dr. Mike Fabarez, June 1, 2008

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Lessons in Leaving


As some of you know, today is a day of transition for me. I am leaving one career to start another and the flood of emotions that I’ve experienced is something that is foreign to me. I’m very blessed to love my job so in leaving there isn’t a feeling of release. Instead, I leave knowing that I leave something great for something that I also love and that I feel called to do. In that, I believe that this new adventure will also be characterized by greatness.

However, in leaving, there are many things that I’ve learned. As I’m accustomed to doing, I thought I’d share at least some of those lessons with you:

1. Everything you do creates an impression – even those moments that in your mind were fleeting anomalies. The reaction to frustration that seemed so necessary at the time rarely is, but its what people tend to remember. Respond in the way that you want people to remember you by. Let that which you want to characterize you guide your interactions.
2. People respond to departures in all sorts of way – laughter, denial, anger and sadness. Processing these varied emotions can be a challenge which is why its good to take account of not only your leaving but the entire time of your stay. A few days shouldn’t be the memory that sticks with you – look at things from the entire journey, and assess your time accordingly.
3. Just like we tend to improve our house when we’re getting ready to sell it, we tend to wait until someone leaves to let them know what they meant to us. This is silly. Next days aren’t guaranteed in any aspect of life. Let people know how they’ve contributed to your life immediately upon recognizing it. Then, regrets will be alien and appreciation abound.
4. People never believe that you will stay in touch when you move on. If you do so, you have a friend for life because they know that your relationship is no longer a matter of convenience but a choice of considered action. People want to know that you’re not leaving them even if your place of employment is different.
5. Loving what you do is a rare gift. Loving the people that you get to work with far rarer. I’m extremely blessed to have both be true.

To all those who I will no longer rightfully call “colleagues,” it is my sincere desire to always call you friends.

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