Temporary Living

iStock_000000095602XSmall“This too shall pass.”

“To everything a season.”

These phrases were common parlance during my college years. My roommates and I would say them to one another as reminders that whatever we were going through it was a temporary condition. The going may not be easy at the time, but as one of the only certainty in life, things were bound to change. We could have confidence that most situations we faced weren’t permanent. In fact, most of them simply required a good night’s sleep and a new day in order to initiate a change in perspective.

What I didn’t fully appreciate in college was that the reality of these statements extended beyond the types of problem that we encountered. We used them as motivation during tough study times or temporary heartbreak; in situations where we could “see” the end goal even if we didn’t know how we were going to get there. However, many situations are not like that. Often, the end is not in sight, and yet for the child of God, the reality of these statements still holds. To everything there is a season, and whatever we face, we can be confident that it too shall pass because we know that anything that happens on this Earth is just a temporary condition.  This Earth will pass away (Mt. 24:35), but we will be with Him in eternity (John 3:16).

At the same time, it is important to remember that the things on this Earth can matter for eternity. While our conditions will change, how we responded to them can be a witness for our great God and King. This world is not our home, it is true, but while we are visitors here, being a child of God means that we are eager to be expended on behalf of our Savior who desires that no one would perish but that all would come to know Him (2 Peter 3:9).

How do we do this then? How do we appreciate the temporality of life’s problems while not ignoring the significance of the eternal impact? Here are a few considerations:

1) Ask what will matter in a hundred years. – This is borrowed from the senior pastor at the church I attend who has frequently reminded us that most things will not matter in a hundred years. However, some things will. A person’s eternal destiny will be of utmost importance regardless of the season or time on the calendar. If what you are contending with will have an impact a hundred years from now, then it can not be easily dismissed as something that is “temporary.” We should concentrate our efforts in those areas that will matter – and not in the things that do not carry such significance.

2) Consider God’s perspective on the problem. – This can be difficult to do as we rarely know exactly what God is doing in a particular situation. However, Scripture is replete with verses that remind us of God’s perspective in general. For example, we know that He says His “yoke is easy” and “burden is light” (Mt. 11:30).  If the situation that we are contending with feels like a weight that is bringing us down, it is likely because we are carrying the wrong load. If our concern has to do with the future, we can have confidence in the fact that He promises to “works all things together for good for those who are called according to His purpose” (Rom. 8:28). When seen from the perspective of Heaven, the things that can consume our minds must often look pretty foolish. By focusing on God’s perspective, we can appreciate the fact that while we must contend with situations here, those situations are not the end of the story.

3) Pray for for eternal insight. – Sometimes we get wrapped up in problems here, because we are forgetting the temporal nature of our time spent on Earth. Other times, we may be tempted to ignore a situation due to our own laziness masked as a concern with “what is above” rather than the things below. However, we often don’t know the impact that our lives can have on others. We need to not only consider things from God’s perspective based on what we know, but we need to ask for His insight so we can see the particular ways that the situation we face may be used for HIs glory. We may not know who is paying attention, but God does. We need HIs wisdom to understand what words, responses and actions may draw someone else to Him.

4) Concentrate on what’s to come. – We need to not merely consider the end of the problem, but the end of this life. God’s Word has promises of the rewards that are in store for His children as they pour out their lives to honor and glorify Him (See Ja. 1:12; Mt. 25:14-30) . Too often our perspective is just on getting through the difficult times. As C.S. Lewis reminds us, however, it is those who are most focused on heaven who do the most Earthly good. If we want to have an impact in this life, we should seek to appreciate and understand our eternal destination more. As we do so, we will increasingly understand how much that demands our attention, is not the same as what will demand our attention there. May our minds and our efforts be ever focused on the things that will matter in our Heavenly home, and not merely our Earthly one.

This idea of appreciating the temporality of this life, while also desiring that this life be used for eternal significance can be a difficult paradox to embrace. However, this is the reality for the child of God. May we understand that while this life is temporal, our job is to use it for the glory and honor of Christ. As we encounter problems here, may how we respond reverberate in Eternity.

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Fighting the Same Battle

iStock_000002333261XSmall“The enemy of my enemy is my friend.”

This familiar quotation reminds us that there is nothing like a common foe to unite two people together. When your main objective is the same, you can lay aside all sorts of other, lesser disagreements in order to focus on victory. History is replete with examples of the effectiveness of this wisdom. Joining together in order to muster resources, time and energy to wage war against a common enemy is a tried and true battle strategy. Internal squabbles are all but obliterated when the focus is on the external foe.

Despite recognizing the reality of this truism, Christians often fail to apply it to their own relationships. Perhaps there is no greater arena for doing so than in a Christian marriage. When two Christians wed, there should be a recognition that their union is not mainly about themselves. Of course, there are reasons, and hopefully good ones, that they have chosen to be united together. Those reasons, however – they make each other laugh, they share the same affection for baseball, they like spending time together, etc. – are not the critical component of their marriage. Their marriage, like all of a Christian’s life, exists for the glory of God. This means their common aim is to conduct themselves in such a way that their lives individually, and their marriage collectively, reflects the grace and beauty of our Lord. Their marriage exists for His honor and praise – not for their own acclaim and pleasure.

However, as the Bible makes clear, there is an enemy who seeks to redirect the praise and glory that rightly belongs to God. This enemy is not passive in his quest. He “prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour”  (I Peter 5:8). He is looking for lives, and circumstances that can be manipulated into seeking praise for themselves, instead of giving praise to the King. He knows that any honor not directed at God, is honored that is misplaced. When God doesn’t get the acclaim He so rightly deserves, Satan considers this a clear, albeit temporary, victory.

While we may affirm the reality of this situation, we are quick to forget it when dealing with circumstances in our home. Scripture tells us that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but often we behave as it is (Eph. 6:12). And far too often, we think the battle is with the one person, our spouse, that should be our closest compatriot in fighting against our mutual foe. Instead of seeing our loved one as our brother or sister in arms, we see them as the one with whom the battle is against. When we are blinded by our own preferences or inclinations from seeing the true enemy, when we are convinced that we have to fight for our own way, instead of contending for God’s, then our marriage ceases to represent Christ. It becomes about us. And then, in that moment, the glory that rightly belongs to God, we retain for ourselves.

Imagine though how our discussions, attitudes and behaviors would change if we recognized that the one we married was engaged in the same battle as we were. If we saw them as someone who is “fighting the good fight” to claim victory for the King that we also serve. Instead of doing battle with them, we would seek to encourage them in their struggle. Instead of focusing on their failures, we would celebrate the victories. We would not view them as a foe, but instead interact with them as a friend.

We would mutually create strategies and tactics to ensure that the enemy didn’t have a foothold in either of our lives, and our satisfaction would not be contingent on getting what we want, but in how well we jointly serve our King.

It wouldn’t be easy. Few things that are worth fighting for are. But it would redirect our attention from the smaller struggles, to the large one. It would take the focus off ourselves and center it on God. And it would help ensure that the glory and praise in our marriage goes to Whom is its proper aim.

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