Our Offense

Recently, I’ve had a little mini-series on sin (If you’ve missed the posts, you can find them here, here, here. and here.) I’ll be honest, it’s not a topic most people want to read about. After, people would much rather read about the better things ahead, then what changes need to happen in the here and now. But I wrote anyway.

Today’s topic may be even less appealing, but it’s important too. For after a discussion about our sin before God, a natural follow-up is to wonder about when people sin against us. (You can see this connection in Matthew 18 verses 7-9 followed by verses 10-14.) After all, we know that a righteous God demands holiness and we want others to treat us according to that standard. But here are two important things to remember:

1. We’re not God.

2. We’re not holy.

So we have no business thinking that we can hold other people to the same standard that God does – in their relationship with us.

Which means, when someone sins against us, we are commanded to forgive. Regardless of whether they deserve it, regardless of how hurt we were, regardless of the consequences we’ve suffered as a result, we are not to hold on to that offense.

And if we do, now we’re the ones in sin. We’ve taken what may be righteous anger and we’ve made it into something that’s abhorrent to God – a hardened heart. We’ve stopped being concern about how their sin affects their relationship with God, and started focusing on how their sin affects us. We’ve held on tight to the repentance we deserve to see, rather than the repentance that’s needed before God.

We’ve taken their sin and made it into our own.

That’s what unforgiveness does. And that’s why God says, regardless of how often or how much is required, when someone sins against you, you are to forgive.

Because God cares more about our standing before Him, then how others stand before us.

And we should too.

(For a great book on sin, check out The Enemy Within by Kris Lundgaard.)

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A Work in Process

Our pastor has a saying that has become very helpful in understanding the process of sanctification. He says that although we will never be sinless (this side of Heaven), our goal as Christians is to sin less. I think it’s an important distinction. After all, it can become discouraging after you have walked a while in the Christian life to realize that you still are so far from what God calls us to be. (Matthew 5:48) One might be tempted to give up when we realize the gap between God’s standards and our lives. We might think we haven’t grown at all, and wonder if we really deserve to be called by God (which of course, we don’t – that’s the foundation of grace. See Ephesians 2:8-9) However, in the midst of this discourse, we need to remember that even this realization is evidence of God’s work in us.

Here’s what I mean. Before we were Christians, sin wasn’t something that we were too concerned with. Sure, we might have felt badly if we treated someone hurtfully, but generally speaking our guilt was focused on the result of our sin, not on the fact that that we had violated God’s holy standards. When we became a Christian, we realized that we are sinful, that we need His grace, and then we must, with diligence, grow to become more like Him.

First, we might focus on the “obvious” sins – those things that we and others can readily agree are wrong. However, as we grow, we begin to pay more attention to the hidden sins – a hardened heart, a stinging spirit, an unforgiving nature. These are sins that others may not readily be aware of, but according to God’s standards are just a much a violation of His holiness as lying, cheating and stealing. When we recognize how much our heart needs to change in order to mirror Christ’s life, this is when we tend to get discourage. But in recognizing these sins, we show that we’ve grown. We’re demonstrating the process of sanctifcation at work in our lives because our hearts are increasingly troubled by the same things that anger God. Our pursuit of the holy is becoming more focused, more intense, and even the seeminly “minor” inpurities are being refined away. The more we recognize our sin, the more engaged we are in the process of sinning less.

Paul is a great example of this. One of the founders of the Early Church, and a man who wrote a substantial portion of the New Testament has this viewpoint- “The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners,of whom I am the foremost.” (I Timothy 1:15, emphasis mine).

Paul recognized the depth of his sin, and this compelled him to continue to strive for holiness so that he was able to say “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ” (I Corinthians 11:1). May we be able to say the same.

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