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The game of hide-and-seek is beloved by children of all ages. The cat-and-mouse interchange makes for great fun and the better hiders can make the game last for hours on end. Of course, if you play the game with young children the game is often quite different. First of all, they aren’t the most adept hiders so it is often easy to spot them with a quick glance around the area of play. Secondly, if you take too long to announce that you have found them, they will often reveal their hiding place with a loud “Here I am!” –  excitedly jumping from their supposedly obscure position.

In Scripture we see a similar situation play out in the lives of men and women that God has called. In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve try to hide from God due to the shame of their sin (Gen. 3:8) However, just like playing hide-and-see with a toddler, trying to conceal oneself from God is an exercise in futility. You may think that the place you have selected cloaks you from detection, but He knows where you are even without looking.

Conversely, we also see individuals in the Bible who when called by God, quickly state “Here I am.” Abraham did so in Genesis 22:1; Moses did so as well in Exodus 3:4. Isaiah and Samuel uttered the same words when they were beckoned, and other examples of those with the same attitude abound. They were quick to state where they were because they were eager to hear from their Heavenly Father. Out of love for Him, they answered when He called.

The big difference between Adam and Eve and the lives of the individuals who were quick to respond to God is that Adam and Eve were ashamed to be seen by their Maker. They had blatantly disobeyed Him and a result both their physical and spiritual nakedness was revealed. The other individuals, while certainly not perfect, were living their lives in such a way that when they were called by God they were eager to be found. They were not mired in a life of unrepentant sin; instead their relationship with God was such that when He called their response wasn’t to hide, but to listen.

We should desire that our response would be similar. Our goal should be to walk so closely with Christ that when He calls, we are eager to hear what He desires for us and are quick to obey His words. If our inclination is to hide, if we desire to be cloaked in obscurity rather than used for His purposes, them we need to examine our lives and see if their is unrepentant sin that we need to confess and seek His forgiveness. We should be eager to hear from our Lord and when we do, we should be equally as eager to do what He says. Our response shouldn’t be to hide; our response should be to say “Here!”

 

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Change, Helping and a Lack of Trust

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At the start of a relationship, people often focus on all the good characteristics of the other person. Listening to someone describe their new-found love interest, one could get the impression that the object of their affection can do no wrong. It is easy to list all the compelling reasons for their interest – and to neglect to consider all the potential shortfalls in the other’s character. We are all prone to the allure of the “rose-colored glasses” and seeing in another person what we want to see.

Of course, given time in a relationship, this is apt to change. Many are all-too-quickly able to list their spouse’s shortfalls, and may do so on a regular basis. Many, particularly women, see this as an opportunity to “fix” the other person. “I can change him” is a mantra too often adopted, and rarely succeeds.

The challenge is that we may start off on this quest with good intentions. It may be our desire to “help” the other person by addressing perceived gaps in their character or the way they do things. What we fail to recognize is that almost always if we are “helping’ someone, they see and appreciate the benefit of what we are doing. Too often this is not the case as what was once “loving reminders” become a fixation on changing who the other person is. It is not considered “helping” if what we are really doing is trying to conform the other person to our desires and preferences. There are other, less flattering words that better describe this proclivity.

What we fail to realize is that our intentions of “fixing” the other person ultimately reveal a lack of trust. The reason that we want them to conform to what we think is best is because we trust in our process, abilities, or character more than we do theirs. Of course, if the issue is one of obedience to God’s Word, it should be our desire that they would conform to this standard – but it should be because we want what is best for them – not because we are able to use Scripture to support the position that we have already established. Just because our spouse handles something differently, does not necessarily mean that their way of doing so is wrong. God’s Word and not our preferences should be the barometer that we use to evaluate actions.

Additionally, when we think it is our job to “change” someone else, we demonstrate a lack of trust in the work that God is doing in that person’s live. This is likely an easier issue to tackle in a relationship where both parties are Christians. If this is the case, we should be able to trust that as the person seeks God, He will convict and direct them in the manner that pleases Him (which may not necessarily be the same thing that pleases us) (Phil 2:13). However, even if only one person is a believer, they should trust that God is doing to use them do His work in their loved one’s live; their job is to live in a manner that is pleasing and obedient to Him – it is up to Him to use that obedience to accomplish His purposes for the other person (See I Peter 3:1).

In short, our desire for our loved ones should be God’s best in their life. To define what this is, we should use His Word, not our preferences. And we should not be so foolish to think that we will be able to bring this about by sheer effort or determination. Instead, we must trust that as we obey Him, He will use us to accomplish what He desires, and that our relationships will be strengthened as a result.

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