Hearing in Hurt

There comes a point in a child’s life where we realize that our parents can’t heal all of our hurts. When we’re younger, we rush to them with every boo-boo, every ache and pain, trusting that they can make it all better. Somewhere along the way, we realize the limits of our parents’ power. I suppose that this generally happens in matters of the heart.  Although parents can clean and bandage cuts, they can’t put the pieces of a broken heart back together. Loving parents will try – they will encourage us with words of affirmation and attempt to give us hope for better days – but that doesn’t mean that they are always successful. Because we realize this, at some point we may even avoid their attempts. As our hearts are hurt, instead of running towards them, we keep to ourselves – knowing that their words will prove to be ineffective.

Unfortunately, many of us apply these same limits to our relationship with God. While we may eagerly share with Him our celebrations and praises, we may be reluctant to run to Him during our times of pain. Not because we don’t want to tell Him about them, but because we don’t want to hear what He has to say. Instead of diving deep into His Word, we avoid it. Instead of searching out godly wisdom, we ignore it. So deep is our pain that we think nothing can heal it. Yet, if there is anyone that we can trust to bring respite, it’s the One Who created us, the Prince of Peace.

The church in Thessalonica is a great example of this. Paul writes to them in I Thessalonians 1:6-7 that they, ” received the word in much affliction, with the joy of the Holy Spirit” with the result that they “became an example to all the believers in Macedonia and in Achaia.”

Did you catch that? They received the word of God in affliction. Despite persecution, they continued to grow in their understanding of God and the Truth. So much so that they became examples to other early churches. Their response to the Truth of God’s Word in the midst of difficult situations was a replica that other churches could follow. 

I wonder if the same could be said of us? When we’re battered and broken do we look to the loveliness of Scripture or do we shy away from it? Do we turn to seek God’s perspective on the situation, looking for how He would like us to respond, or do we nurse our wounds, unwilling to seek His care and assistance? Are we receiving the Word during our time of affliction and in so doing, responding in a way that is an example, not only to other believers, but a watching world?

The day that we realize that our mom and dad can’t make everything better, is a hard day. With our Heavenly Father, there will never be such a realization, because even if He doesn’t change the circumstances, He can equip us and guide us to navigate them in a manner that is pleasing to Him. And that’s the best outcome for a situation that we can hope for or imagine.

 

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Early Graduation

On days when I like to shock people, I tell them that I graduated college at 19. It’s a true statement, but it’s not one I usually share because people have all sorts of preconceptions about what that means (Also, it feels a little deceptive as shortly thereafter I turned 20.) Almost immediately after someone hears this, their very first question is, “So are you some sort of genius or something?” I quickly have to explain to them that I’m not. I was just a very disciplined student and that God had a plan for my life that allowed me to graduate a little earlier than most. Although many find this answer unsatisfactory, it happens to be the truth.

I was thinking of this recently as I shared my story with a group of students. Those who know me know that another part of my story is that my dad passed away very unexpectedly two years ago. Never before had I put those two incidents – my early graduation and my father’s heavenly homecoming – so close together. As I did so, I realized that what was true for me, was also true of my dad. He received an early “graduation” because he was so disciplined about living for God while on this Earth. The commencement of his eternal life started a  earlier than expected, but that wasn’t an accident. He had finished the work that God called him to do.

There are at least three ways in which my dad demonstrated his disciplined pursuit of God. They are:

  • He devoted himself to the Scriptures – As I’ve written about my dad before, he was a student of the Bible. However, my dad didn’t just read the Scriptures – he studied and memorized them. Upon his passing, I had the chance to see the commentary that he was working on putting together. We also found his ring of notecards that he was using to commit even more of God’s Word to memory. My dad didn’t just consume Scripture – he loved it. And his life reflected that devotion.

 

  • He prayed expectantly – One of the things that I grew to appreciate about my dad was his penchant for making lists. Like many people, he kept a prayer list, but he also noted when and how those prayer requests were answered. Additionally, he kept this list in his planner so he always had a handy reminder of God’s faithfulness and generosity. My dad prayed expecting an answer and looked forward to when he would write that answer on his list.

 

  • He discipled purposefully – When I was younger, my dad was involved in all sorts of formal discipleship programs at church. When I grew older, his work took him farther from home, and he couldn’t make all of the scheduled programs. However, that didn’t stop him from discipling. He looked for opportunities to help others grow in their faith and intentionally pursued those opportunities that God provided. Whether as part of a formal program or not, he was committed to sharing God’s truth with others and helping them in their walk with God.

Graduation ceremonies are usually occasions of much celebration as we acknowledge the start of the next chapter in a person’s life.  My dad’s commencement into Heaven may have been sooner than we expected, but I’m sure he was met with much Heavenly applause. After all, he lived a life worthy of an early graduation, with honors.

 

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