Growing in Pleasure

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As a baby develops, every growth milestone is measured and marked. Height and weight are a part of this of course – but so are other developmental cues such as their first smile, their first word, and when took their first step. Mom and dad, grandparents, aunts and uncles and more, commemorate and celebrate the child’s progress to maturity.

Over time, careful attention to one’s development begins to wade. Celebrations are reserved for “special” events – not daily progress. No longer is each step towards growth noted for posterity.

However, in our relationships we should continue to celebrate growth, albeit of a different kind. We should be celebrating our loved one’s progress in maturity as it pertains to their relationship with God. Perhaps this is a more difficult kind of growth to measure – there are no yardsticks or scales that let us easily surmise how much development has occurred. However, its difficulty does not eschew its importance.  Just like new parents take delight in every milestone that their little one reaches, so should we take pleasure in in the spiritual development of those we love.

We know how to do this, even if we don’t do it often. After all, there are many things that we celebrate – achievements and awards, promotions and progress. Our lack of acknowledging spiritual progress isn’t because we are unaccustomed to taking pleasure in another’s accomplishments but because we haven’t made it a practice to pay attention to it. Instead of celebrating lesser things with unbridled enthusiasm, we would do well to find our greatest pleasure in our loved one’s growth in their relationship with God. This should be celebrated and acknowledged with as much gusto as any other “accomplishment.” And this should be the focus of our greatest encouragement as well.

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Uncircumstantial

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They say that the difference between happiness and joy is that happiness is dependent upon circumstances, while joy is not.

Additionally for the Christian, Scripture tells us that the joy of the Lord is our strength. Not only is our joy not found in circumstances but in the Creator, but by partaking of this joy, we have the strength to live the life that He has called us to do.

Yet, as every Christian knows, this doesn’t come easy.

We tend to act as if our circumstance, rather than our walk with God, dictate our actions. We behave as if poor attitudes are justified by bad experiences. We evaluate our response by the degree of happiness we have.

However, if our joy is not found in our circumstances, than by God’s grace, we have the ability to respond rightly regardless of what the situation is.

This is especially important in our relationships. Not only are our marriages intended to be a representation of Christ and His Church (Eph. 5:22-33), but Scripture makes it clear that unbelievers will know that we are His disciples based on how we love one another. If expressions of our love are predicated on our happiness, than we are no different from those who don’t have the joy of the Lord strengthening them to act according to His Word.  His Spirit, and not our situations, should control our response.

This means that how we treat our spouse can glorify God even in difficult moments. This means that our words and actions can be filled with grace regardless of the difficulty of our surroundings. His joy strengthens us to live rightly even when its tough to do so, even when the other person doesn’t “deserve” it. Because our thoughts are centered on Him, not on the circumstances.

 

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